To paint a picture of what you can get out of Individual Guidance, here is a lovely metaphor about stress.
STRESS AND A GLASS OF WATER
While leading a seminar on the topic of stress management, a young lady confidently walked around the room with a raised glass of water. Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, “Is this glass half empty or is it half full?” She fooled them all. Instead, she inquired with a smile, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The audience responded with answers ranging from 200 grams to 500 grams.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, the weight of the water is the same; but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, we become more stressed and the burdens becomes increasingly heavy and we are unable to carry on.” As with the glass of water, you have to put down your burdens and worries for a while and rest before holding them again.
Although stress may be a fact of life, being stressed out is not. Taking time each day to set aside any burden, thought or fear that is causing you stress can significantly increase your ability to cope and deal with the stressors in your life.
LET ME HELP YOU TO “PUT DOWN YOUR GLASS FOR A BIT”
Personal Guidance offers you a diversity of relaxationmethods and support based on my broad education. Depending on your needs these contain forms of bodywork, conversation techniques, breathing techniques, defensibility techniques and other exercises to help you relax on a deeper level and let go of old stress.
Do you feel overwhelmed and are you experiencing significant problems such as mood swings, problems sleeping, loss of energy, changes in appetite etc., because of worry and stress? Then it may be helpful to consult a professional to help you develop specific strategies for your situation.
It could be with me or with someone else. However I wish you someone you feel comfortable with.
What else can I do for you. I can help you:
- by supporting you in your self-care. Together we look at where you can be stimulated or where we can make improvements.
- get an overview of your own situation in terms of eg: stress, energy, social skills, administration etc.
- by strengthening your own strength, resilience, self-reliance, stability, physical well-being and psychosocial functioning.
- explore how you can increase your social contacts and your participation in society, and reduce loneliness.
- by providing practical support in performing certain tasks or activities.
- with practice and ingraining and skills that contribute to increasing self-confidence.
- practicing and developing skills learned elsewhere (eg in therapy).
- by going with you to a doctor’s visit or other appointments where you can use some support.
- with setting up a day structure, and keep an eye on things to see whether something needs to be adjusted.
WHAT YOU CAN DO YOURSELF
Below are a few techniques you can do by yourself to reduce stress and recharge your resilience.
- Take a few moments to breath deeply from your diaphragm. Diaphragmatic (belly) breathing helps oxygenate your blood and will help you relax almost immediately; as little as 90 seconds will have an effect.
- Take a brisk walk outside for just a few minutes. Let your mind focus on what you are noticing in your environment rather than mulling over your problems.
- Just say no. Trying to do too much, over-scheduling yourself is a direct route to becoming over stressed. Set reasonable limits for yourself and stick to them.
- Stretch. A great stress relieving stretch is a yoga pose called the child pose. Kick your shoes off, kneel on the floor (on a rug or mat), sit back on your heels, then lean forward and put your forehead on the floor, arms forward on the floor, palms up. Hold for a few minutes.
- Eat a snack while practicing mindfulness. Slowly enjoy a piece of chocolate or a delicious piece of fruit.